This conversation was inspired by my WTF moment earlier today when I saw a post on SM about someone wanting to have hypnosis done on a three year old with “behavioural issues”.
Now I am going to take all children with legitimate medical conditions out of this conversation because it isn’t about them.
This is about the “normal” kids that push boundaries, have bad behavioural habits, that seem somewhat disobedient and naughty. Some call these normal developmental milestones “ behaviour problems”. These are the kids of parents searching high and low for a label to attach to their child and their behaviour to justify their lack of personal growth and lost parenting.
Harsh? Maybe but also true.
Let’s keep in context here that the underlying vision of Courageous Coaching is to create a better humanity by shifting the paradigm of motherhood as mothers typically have the most influence over children however these principles apply just as much to fathers.
I am not a “parenting expert” who is. I am a mother that has raised two children to adulthood and 5.5yrs into raising the third.
My beliefs and parenting style have evolved as my children did and the only people on the planet that can evaluate how I did are them and I’m happy to say I get a lot of thanks and gratitude.
To the outside I’ve always been “alternative” in my role of mother/parent which is now being called “awakened” or “conscious”
My aim here is to disrupt your thinking and encourage change.
I learned when my first born was 18mths old to see her as a human rather than “my” child. When my almost two year old was having a tantrum every time I took a glass off her it wasn’t because she was being naughty or had behavioural issues, it was because she knew she could safely use one, clean one and put one away as that’s what she was doing at Montessori school. She was trying to tell me to trust her. I had to learn and grow (Change).
I learned to really look at my little human with fascination and wonder as she explored. Tantrums happened when I didn’t trust when I allowed all the shoulds of generations past to be my guide, when I allowed my fears to dictate actions, my frustrations to dictate discipline.
Do you see that the behaviour born out of a tantrum has nothing to do with the child?
It’s all you. Your beliefs, fears, expectations, frustrations etc.
Why do you have them?
Where do they come from?
What part of you needs to learn and grow (Change) in order to have more calm and harmony in your home?
The world doesn’t need anymore children labeled and medicated. Stop looking for reasons to keep blaming your children for their “behaviour”. (Context here is children under 7)
The world does need more “awakened” and connected parents who really do value the sacredness of their role.
Do you know how blessed you are to be the first teachers of humanity?
Do you know how big that is?
Did you even know that as parents that’s your job?
Time to wake up.