Repeat after me
“The choices other people make and don’t make, have nothing to do with me.”
Take a minute and let that land on you.
If someone chooses to walk away from your life without saying a word it is a choice they are making for reasons only they know. Taking on blame is pointless.
If someone chooses to lie to you, cheat on you or betray you in any way, it a choice they are making for their own reasons. Taking on blame is pointless
If someone chooses to hurt you, they are making a choice to do that for reasons only they know. Taking on blame is pointless
Women seem to have a default setting that says “it all my fault”
Granted society in a lot of ways have programmed that over generations but the truth of it is this.
No one is perfect and we each have to take a step back in any situation, reflect and ask ourselves this honestly “what was my part in this” there will always be one but that’s for you to determine and work through.
Placing blame or accepting blame is an avoidance tactic to take you away from dealing wth the actual internal stuff you need to deal with and grow through in order to become the “real” you.
Try it, when someone try’s to blame you for something step back and ask “is this mine to own?” If yes then deal with it. If no, let it go.
Watch how your body feels, how much lighter do you feel, how much more time do you have?
When you go to blame someone ask yourself “Is this mine to own?” If the answer is yes then deal with and release the other person from the drama.
When there’s no one else to blame, there’s only one place left to look!