I’m sure you’ve all seen quotes like this image or heard the statement before?
It’s a crock of shit. It implies that all that’s required of you to change anything is a shift in thinking. Yes that does come into it but in itself isn’t what brings about change.
It doesn’t matter what it is these days, everyone is looking for the shortcut, the hack that helps them get where they want to go the fastest and with minimal discomfort and disruption to themselves and life.
Sure Awareness and self awareness is phase 1 just choosing to think differently on the subject isn’t going to fast track you to the result.
To complete a full circle of change in any area there are a 9 phases. You can’t avoid any of them. Many try but always circle back once they realise they’re still in the same place. Since teaching The Ritual of Change™️ I know exactly which phases people try to avoid. Phases 2,3,6,7 & 8. They involve the biggest amount of effort.
Let me give you an example.
Phase 1 is awareness so say for example someone who cares about you has pointed out to you that your leadership style is actually bullying. They’ve shown you evidence and you realise this person isn’t the only one who feels that way. Here’s where you can choose to move into phase 2 which is Acceptance.
This is the first phase many stop because they don’t want to accept what they’ve heard. They don’t want to accept that a part of them is showing up in a way that is hurting others, they don’t want to accept that part of themselves that’s a bully.
Typically they would brush it off, make the person who brought it into their awareness wrong, likely remove that person from their life and continue on until some point in the future when someone else brings it back into their awareness.
This stops the process of change for that person, without their growth they aren’t able to change that leadership style which would continue to be detrimental to those they lead and therefore detrimental to the company they work for or the business they own. The result would be either staff not confident enough to speak up because they don’t want to be on the receiving end or high turnover of staff because they’ve had enough of this person. Either way there are costs in productivity and morale, therefore culture, not to mention the monetary costs involved with new recruitment.
Stop looking for the shortcuts, there are none when it comes to change and personal growth. Do the work.